Have you ever been ashamed of being retrenched?

If you're lucky enough, you'll experience it a few times in your #career. Whenever it happens, you may still feel like the world has imploded. This is normal because it's always unexpected and there's a lot of uncertainty that comes with it.

Hang in there! All the #uncertainties are #opportunities. It gives you a moment to think about what you really want, look back on your days at the company, what are the insights?

Here are some suggestions when it happens to you (touchwood for you):

1. Don't think too much

When it comes, the feeling of rejection always comes first. No one likes being rejected, it can make you feel like a failure, and think about whether it's your own problem.

In fact, most of retrenchment are not directly related to your performance. There're many more factors to consider in making this decision. So, don't take it personal, don't try to start thinking about why your peers are staying, but you are not, because you can never know the full answer, it's just a waste of time and energy.

2. Do something! Don't just sit and wait.

Ya.. in most of cases, you are immediately unemployed or be put on garden leave. It's usually a busy time to check email or have a meeting when you suddenly feel like you have nothing to do. Should I go for a rest? Should I pet my cats? Should I go for a run or should I start job hunting right away? The answer is to do whatever you think will help release your emotions. Don't focus too much on this matter, what happened, happened, nothing can change the result. But of course, you can still pour out your negative emotions if you think it will help.

3. Tell people, start with who you care the most.

Apart from worry about living, panic often comes from not knowing how to tell someone, how they will react, and so on. So, do it first! The longer you stay private, the deeper you think, the more upset and nervous you become, but the result will just be the same. To face it is to tell people. And you shouldn't be ashamed. Just tell them in a casual way, show the #positive side of you, tell them not to worry, and you'll be fine.

4. Connect with people. Avoid negative people though.

There're always insights from people, many of which might actually help you find a new job faster. That being said, you don't need to do it premeditatedly, just find a friend and share how you're feeling and it can help you get through it too. Avoid negative people just because you don't need more in that moment, so why bother?

Lastly, retrenchment =/= firing, retrenchment usually affect a group of people, not just you. Again, there's nothing you should be ashamed of. For you, it's just a bad timing and a mismatch. They could be wrong too, right?

#Retrenchment most commonly occurs when the company no longer needs the position the employee performs, or the company is facing financial difficulties and must reduce its workforce to stay in business. What have you been through?